How To Fail Like a Champion – What To Do When Things Go Wrong In Your Internet Business

Posted on 03. Sep, 2013 by in Business Model, Internet Business, Internet Marketing, Jewels of Wisdom

 

Failure is an integral part of your success and everyone has to experience it at some point. Today we want to look at managing failure and ask “how do successful people manage failure?”

Hello, Andrew Grant here with a special guest post today!

Whatever path you choose in life, you’ll have to deal with roadblocks and challenges. Having owned and run several successful businesses and having helped clients in all industries succeed, one of the key attributes is learning how to ‘fail’ like a champion!

Today I’d like to share some key thoughts on the topic of embracing failures as part of your journey.

Over time I’ve had a number of people coming to me and they’ve been disappointed that things haven’t worked – even though they have done everything right. They’ve followed the system – but it didn’t work.

The difference between success and failure – is how you manage yourself at this point.

How you fail and manage this failure gives you the foundation for how you succeed in the future. In other words – how you manage failure is your measure.

When we use the word failure – this is what we are talking about. If you have a successful mindset you are probably not relating to this word at all. The real successful people – relate to failure – as another step in the process. It’s not an end in itself.

To give you an example of this:

• The inventor of the light bulb – Thomas Edison – is reported to have tried over 2,000 different ways of making the light bulb work.

• I want you to think back yourself – when was the last time you tried something 2,000 – getting 1,999 failures and were still encouraged to move onto the next step?

• How does someone like Thomas Edison – keep going 2000 particularly if someone is saying that it can’t be done.

• There are a whole bunch of reasons why Thomas Edison could have given up – but he didn’t.

• “I’m not discouraged because with every wrong step I’ve just found 10,000 ways to make it work!”

• Many of lifes failures are because they did not realize how close they were to success before they gave up.

How can some people make Internet businesses work – and other people don’t?!

Daryl and I give say 10 people a step by step process – and there will be 10 different interpretations of what we have said. People interpret what they want to into things and put their own slant on it. This is not a bad thing – it’s what makes us unique. If you give a song to 10 artists – they’ll interpret it in 10 different ways

When it comes to a process or formula – sometimes the slant or access we put on that formula has a crippling effect to the outcome of that system. I ask people – how much is your success due to what you know or what you think you know and your attitude. 90% comes down to your mind set.

The how to is a small part of the overall success – so if you are bringing your headspace to it with the right attitude – then you need to understand that this is a big part of your success factor. Sometimes it’s not just good enough to do the steps, you have to do the steps with the right intent. Understand failure is part of that.

Daryl and I tell you when launching into a new niche – out of 20 possible ideas when we are originally brainstorming – 1 is a goer. When we put those 20 down on paper – we think they are all great. In fact, some that generally fail – I often think are fantastic. Inherently, we have 19 failures to one success. You want to fail small and quickly and roll out and consolidate on the big winners.

Recognise that you are going to have some failures – and not everything is going to work. Don’t get hung up on the failures and don’t take it personally and certainly don’t take it as an indictment of who you are! Champions know they are champions – they have a belief that they have failed in an attempt at that point – but they are not a failure.

How do you think about yourself when something fails – do you think “I am not very clever” or “I can’t do this”? Where is your head when you can’t get something to work for you? Most other people look outside themselves and blame others. Don’t fall prey to the victim mindset. It doesn’t serve you and does not exist in a successful persons mindset.

Whenever you do something new or challenging and get outside your comfort zone – this is when this stuff crops up.
This is certainly true for Daryl and I. For me – being in business is one of the best personal development courses out there. If you really want even more of a challenge go into business with your partner!

We have a couple of processes to identify the problem and to change it. One we use and endorse is described below:
This technique is a 7 step process.

Once you identify an issue – that goes a long way towards solving it – we find it super charges the results if you change it and replace it with something else. this is because unless you shift the problem at a subconscious level you don’t make much change.

The Sedona Method works very quickly and another method is time tracking – it is a longer method, but works very effectively. The first time I did this I felt it was too easy – and couldn’t possibly have worked. It makes a huge difference – don’t be surprised though if at first it doesn’t feel like it has made a difference.

Get into a relaxed state – into your alpha or meditative state – you need to have time to spend on you, in a place where you can’t be interrupted.

If you identify that the belief is not still serving you, you can change it using the Sedona method:
1. Describe the emotion (eg frustration, shame)—what does it look like, how big is it, what colour is it?
2. Put your hand on where the emotion sits in your body. It may be a grey thing – clutched around your throat – or a heavy basketball in your stomach – or a restricting wetsuit.
a. Visualise it
b. In a meditative state – really experience it as something real
c. Then answer these questions:
3. If you were given the opportunity to let this feeling go, could you?
4. If you were given the opportunity to let this feeling go, would you?
5. If you would let it go, when would you?
a. If 3, 4 and 5 is yes – go to step 6
6. Use a symbolic way to let go of that feeling – feel yourself and visualise yourself getting rid of it.
a. Once you’ve done that it’s important to fill the vacuum with something.
b. Use a symbolic way to replace the old feeling with a new feeling, to fill the vacuum
c. If you don’t replace it with something else – it will come back.
7. Repeat the process if the feeling has moved but is not yet positive, eg moved from fear to anxiety.
a. Sometimes you have diminished it – but it’s still negative
b. Go through the steps again and work on the new feeling and replace it with a positive one

It can be done in 10-15 minutes. I use this and it makes a world of difference.

Remember, if you are not failing – you are probably not doing anything!

To me that is scarier than not doing anything!

A FULL Day of Mindset Training with Me

From the 8th-11th November, Daryl and I will be sharing with you the system that has enabled us to create a successful business (so you don’t have to fail!!!).

If you come along, follow the steps Daryl and I will teach, you’ll give yourself a great chance of getting ahead and learning from our failures! I can guarantee it will be worth your while. Secure your seat NOW as tickets are getting gobbled up quickly! On Day 4 we spend nearly the entire day on mindset.

I look forward to seeing you there!

andrew

 

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